Tuesday, November 8, 2011

You think you know what child abuse is?


Nearly everyone in America knows someone affected by parental alienation, or, to put the concept in non-controversial terms, a dysfunctional relationship between a parent and offspring. We all seem to know someone unable to relate to his or her father, whether we know that person casually, as a distant acquaintance or intimately, as a family member, or somewhere between.
These deep rifts happen every day.
This is not about “child abuse.” Let’s be perfectly clear. This is not going over “the same old ground.” As a point of fact, I believe that 90 % of victims of child abuse are overlooked and forgotten about; very few are speaking out for these victims despite all the rage and clamor, all the organizations “to stop child abuse.”
By this is meant a small minority of abused who suffer in obvious ways get a great deal of attention. Yet, a high percentage of sympathizers are unable to do anything about their cause. Men are blamed, and restricting men’s behavior is assumed to be the solution. “Stop child abuse” means for too many, alienate all men from all children. An absolute program to prevent child abuse would be to prevent all births from taking place.
The horse is gone. Close the barn door.
Pointing fingers, naming the guilty after the fact, going to meetings so that one is witnessed crying out, “they should be jailed for life … he should be castrated …” Yes, I am going to assert this is self-serving behavior that does nothing to prevent a first-time offender from getting his or her first taste of blood.”
When the horse leaves the barn, go get it.
Yes, we strongly advocate that all abusers are brought to justice.
Nevertheless, to really do something to prevent abuse it is necessary to take a look at the lives of children today. This means that one is open to witness where the vast majority of abuse takes place: within the confines of single-mother homes. But no, I am not going to cite statistics. Metrics are available for a number of reputable studies. The findings are consistent. Go find them.
Instead, I prefer to ask what people know from experience. Those of you who know … know exactly what I mean. You carry the truth within you every day.
Consider any office group of ten or more people. Usually, there is one guy of whom the others are inclined to say, … “He’s an asshole;” the office ass. Or, a woman is reputed to be “the bitch.” Every group seems to have one of each.
Bets are, if you go to either, finesse your way through their protective armor, a sad human being is found. A victim of abuse, at the hands of a parent … or even more likely, someone who was alienated from a parent early in life. A bond formed; a bond was abruptly broken. Trust was terminally crushed.

I happen to be one person who believes in a personal soul. I have one; it existed before I was conceived. It is my belief that all non-cloned persons have a soul; instinct tells me to allow for some apparent persons out and about that are soulless clones.
I also believe that my soul, and everyone’s, retains a sense of identity, a collective memory, so to say. When a child is born, its soul begins to develop along with its body. Being held by a loving parent enriches the soul. Animals tell us the same truth, as photographic evidence abounds of animals of one species nourishing babies of another species in circumstances of need. Inter-species affection between animals is also evident. Throughout history, humans have witnesses this and similar behavior; so-called “primitive” religions reflect collective belief in a human soul as well as a soul in animals, and often, plants. Ignorance within contemporary generations does not erase validity or truth of these concepts.
These other species tell us, in sharing affection, that this is also a basic human need of nourishment. A properly nourished human soul develops a healthy moral conscience, which seems to be a “thinking’ part of a soul-body. It follows that an undernourished human soul does not fully develop its moral conscience. As a skin grows with a physical body, so should a moral conscience grow with proper nourishment of a human soul.
The sad fact is that a majority of children today are not being nourished within their soul-bodies. I base this observation on factors that do nourish a soul, affection being vitally important. Interaction with adults is also important; so is hearing an adult, male and female, witnessing male-female interaction, speaking with both parents, and being heard. All of these behaviors nourish one’s soul.
Look around, observe prolific behavior of youth whose soul, and thus whose moral conscience, is undernourished. We stand in the midst of evidence of this truth. Hence I assert strongly that children are routinely abused by neglect, by inadequate nourishment of their souls.
This is why children of single mother families are eight times more likely to commit murder than children growing up within two-parent families.
It proves once again … there is madness within the method of raising children in America today.